Yesterday was a very emotional day for the Cedar Springs family as we had to say goodbye to one our furry family members. Huey our 11-year-old aussie/border collie mix lost his battle with a blood cancer. This really had me struggling with what to talk about on this week’s tip (it also caused me to be a day late one again). After reflecting on the loss, it only seemed fitting to talk about how to include loved ones (two or four legged) whom cannot be there on your special day. Loss is an inevitable part of life and over the years I’ve seen loved ones memorialized in different ways during weddings I want to provide a few examples of what I’ve seen and experienced just remember everyone is different and some grieve differently so please approach the subject with your family before doing a memorial as some may not be ready to address the missing member.
I personally lost both of my mother’s parents long before I was engaged to cancer. This left me feeling like there was a huge hole in my wedding day. I didn’t want to make a whole memorial as I didn’t want to mourn however I did want to feel their presence throughout the event. My grandfather was a huge man with twice the personality of anyone I have ever met. He was the type of person that called attention whenever he walked into a room. He was a no-nonsense hardworking man and you can understand his life by looking at his old boots. So, during the ceremony I had flowers placed in his boots and placed at the altar. It was important to me that he be up there as my other grandfather was my officiant. I placed a wedding photo of my grandparents in a locket that was wrapped in my bouquet. These were both subtle things that if I had not told my guests they wouldn’t be aware of them however the people who knew my grandparents were brought to tears when they saw them. A memorial does not need to be obvious and in your face. It does not need to bring sadness to the today but will ensure connections are made.
The following are some ways to incorporate your lost loved ones.
What are some memorials that you have seen or loved?